It's been a week and we are all VERY TIRED.
(head bangs on keyboard, asldfkj.......agpao;eh........gwp'ejwlkj)
At 6 months we put them in their cribs because they were getting too big and moving around too much for any of us to sleep good together.
They took to their beds quickly.....the transition was almost TOO smooth.
I, I, I....I just want to sleeeeeeep. My eyes are dry and red and when I blink they seem to stick shut. My head feels heavy and is a little spinny. aaaaaaaaaaahh aaaaaaaaaaaahh haaaaaaaa.
There has to be medication that you can give them. Something that can safely knock them out for at LEAST 6 hours.
Why hasn't somebody marketed this. This has got to be the hottest commodity out there. A solution for sleep deprivation and colic is what they need to focus on. They have medication for restless freaking leg syndrome for hell sakes...but they can't come up with something to knock children out. Safely of course.
Gotta go, gotta go, gotta go right now....oh sure, that is something to consider curing, THIS is BIGGER than even incontinence.
I am not the mom that lets her kids cry themselves to sleep. It's a personal decision and I've chosen to rock and hold mine. I normally have no problems with this decision.....up to now. At this point I would TOTALLY let them cry it out. Guess what....with twins or with more than one kid, you can NOT. If one wakes up and cries for more than a few minutes, then THEY ALL WAKE UP ! And then you have 3 screaming kids and 2 exhausted and tired mommies. Who are already sleep deprived and on the edge, ready to put 2 screaming babies in the garage.
This is where I would discuss drinking during the day. However, if I had a drink right now (as it's happy hour somewhere) I would pass the f*&% out.
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WE HEAR YA LOUD AND CLEAR!!!! We have been going through the same thing off and on for some time now. And with twins and a toddler it is more difficult than it was with the first. Please email T (you can do this through our blog) and she can go into detail what we have tried. It works when they aren't sick.
Dang I am sorry. I don't know what would work, but I know what I would try. Every kid is different, and I hope you find some relief soon!
Oh sorry to leave you hanging! I love Super Nanny so that would be great to see you on there. We were nannies for many years, so we get our techniques from that and from watching Super Nanny. I don't know what you have tried or what your schedule is like. I know you don't like them to cry themselves to sleep, but sometimes they need to learn to soothe themselves so you don't have to do it all night. I have 6 kids in my day care and they all put themselves to sleep. I couldn't do it any other way. I don't have time to put them all to sleep, so I try to teach them while they are young. The younger they learn the better. What I have done that has worked is this. I would put the kid down fully awake but ready for bed. Then I would leave the room. They probably cry. I go in after 5 minutes and lay them down saying " It is time for bed". Then go out. Give them 5 minutes again. Then go in and lay them back down only saying "nigh time". Then leave. Now give them 10 minutes. Still crying. Go in and say nothing but lay them down. Never pick them up because that is giving them the wrong idea. You want them to know that it is bed time not holding time. Anyway you could each pick a baby to get to sleep. After a few nights it should take less and less time and eventually they will get the point. Now you may not want them to cry or have the energy to do this and that is fine, but it has worked for me. Most people who don't want their kids to CIO won't try this. I think letting them cry it out, would be to let them cry for hours not ever going in. This is what I learned on Super Nanny.
Another thing I had to do is this: I had a new kid start and he was about 14 months old. Well I could not figure out how to get him to sleep. His parents told me to let him cry a little and I did, but when he would go to sleep he would only sleep 20 minutes. Well that was not enough time, and he was so tired. So I finally figured out what worked for him. I had to stand in the room so he could see me. I didn't have to hold or tlk to him, just stand there. He would fall asleep in minutes with no tears, and sleep for 2-3 hours. Eventually I moved farther and farther away from him until I was out of the room. Now I can put him right down and leave the room and he still sleeps 2-3 hours!
Sorry this is so long. I don't like to preach or make it look like I know everything, because I don't. I just know what has worked for my kid and all the kids I have watched. So take what you will and do what you want.
P.S. I can be your Super Nanny. I'll come to your house and help! LOL
I'm sorry KJ. Do they not sleep at all?? Or they just wont go to sleep on their own?? Cameron fusses a little bit, but usually goes right to sleep. If on the rare occaison he puts up more of a fuss, I get him out of his crib and most times he needs a little more bottle,or cuddling. Could it be that the change into their cribs combined with not breast feeding them at the same time have anything to do with it?? I have never done the crying it out thing either.
Merr,
Thanks...you are truly the expert. The thing is, the reason that I rock my kids to sleep is that it is really the only time I get to spend with them one on one a lot of the time. It's also the only time I get to cuddle them as they are movers and shakers. I love that time with them.
Now I always did this with Syd and when she got older I was able to just lay her down and walk out of the room. Today she is great at bed time and nap time.
The boys up until this last week were rocked to sleep and would sometimes wake up at night, but would go right back to sleep. This week however they go to sleep just fine, they are having a hard time staying asleep. We try to NEVER pick them up. We lay them back down and pat them on the back and tell them to go to sleep. That usually works. Only on occasion if the situation is loud and out of control will we pick them up and rock them back to sleep. This week we are going in to their rooms and patting them on the back and telling them to go to sleep ALL NIGHT LONG ! (between the two of them)
The problem with letting them cry is like I said....it wakes ALL 3 OF THEM UP. That is not acceptable behavior (super nanny talk :) ha ha
Nailgirl,
They go to sleep ok, and when they wake up they go right back to sleep...it's just that they constantly wake up. We are not giving them bottles because A) we don't want to get them out of their crib and B) I don't want them to think they need a middle of the night feeding...now that we weaned them of it.
I think it's the combination of there being 2 of them. Which both my wife and I split the time. It just SUCKS when they are up every hour or so and NEVER AT THE SAME TIME ! ugh
Maybe my problem is that I should be drinking at NIGHT....then I wouldn't hear the crying :)
Maybe it is all of the changes the past couple of months.
First of all I want to commend you on weaning them both from the milk truck duties, especially so young. How did that go?? Secondly it could be a phase, maybe a binky?? Btw Cameron still wakes up at night to have a bottle so maybe I am doing something wrong lol.
Heres a thought KJ. If the boys share a room, how about putting in a sound machine or a radio? Lexie and Cameron share a room, and they never wake up to each others cries. I have both a sound machine and a radio in their room.
Nailgirl,
RIGHT ON ! Amy had suggested the SAME thing.
We are going tonight to purchase one. CROSS YOUR FINGERS !
Mama is on the edge.
Hey KJ parts 4 and 5 are up on my blog. You will love how I leave you hangin, sorry. I will work on part 6 and 7 this afternoon.
KJ You forgot to read part 4 ding dong!!
I so hope you've caught some zzz's by now. As you can tell I haven't worked on our Rachel Gay idea. Maybe this weekend. I'm sure that's the least of your worries right now!
I CAN'T BELIEVE SYD IS GOING TO BE 3!!! OMG!!!
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