I called her on the phone and just said it. "MOM, I have something to tell you.
I'm pregnant. do you want more. it's twins."
She was immediately worried about Sydney. She asked what I was doing. you know, to herself, she didn't wait for or really want a response.
She did ask me about the bleeding, how far along I was, who knew, how I was feeling, if I had seen my doctor, where I was going to put everyone.
She then said she had to go. it was in a, WOW this was a lot to choke down, I need to catch my breath kind of go. I asked her if she'd be calling my dad first and she said yes. I said, please give it to him in pieces. She said, ok. bye.
It wasn't a "happy" call. or a "congratulatory" kind of conversation. we knew it wouldn't be.
I'm certain she'll come around. like she does to ALL of my little life altering predicaments I get myself in to.
It's done though right ? I mean....she knows now.
Now I just need to get over it.
WHY DO I GIVE HER SO MUCH CONTROL....I swear I will never do this to my kids :)
Something I don't give her control over is my subconscious mind.
There is a tile in my bathroom that looks JUST LIKE a little kid with a bandaid over one eye smiling at me.
When I start talking to him that's when I know it's time for an intervention.
Oh and what do you make of this little scene on my piano ? veddy intadesting.
27 comments:
I LOVE the band aid boy! I have a jesus in my floorboard. Check your email! And the piano...once I blew the picture up I saw IMMEDIATELY what you were referring to!
I'm not sure what your relationship with your mom is like but yes, we all tend to give people way too much power. This might be her issue, but it doenst have to be yours, right?
I might pee over the piano picture. :)
Glad to hear you finally told your mom. She'll come around, right? Grandparents LOVE kids when they're not theirs. And when it gets heavy, we'll be here to remind you that we know better and that this is a big, fat blessing!
I'm glad you told your mom. Your mom will be over excite when the babies come soon... Give her some time....
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I'm glad you told your mom. She'll come around. It will take her some time but she will - just like she has with the others. She loves you just like you love your kids. Did you tell her that this is the end - no more kids after this?
BTW, you spend waaay too much time staring at your floor and piano! :)
That Anonymous above is me. I clicked the wrong thing....
Nice bandaid kid. I'm worried about what else you might find in your close looks at household items. lol.
Congrats on getting it done! I think my mom will be the same way when I get pregnant. At least this part is over with. Whew.
Ok I couldn't find anything on the piano...I even blew it up like jennifer said....oh well..as for your mom...have you ever been close? Are your parents still together? the reason why I asked is if they were apart maybe you could of called him your self....my daughter and I are close she calls all of the time...your mom will come around these children are a part of you and her.....I take it she doesn't read your blog....lol.....
The bank aid boy... was very funny.
I am very glad you told your mom, you have to at least feel better.
Good job telling your mom! That's how mt mom is. When I told her we were pregnant she didn't get all happy and congratulatory, but she is way excited for my sister's baby! It just sucks that they can't see our happiness and be happy for us.
My mom was the same way when I got preg with Cameron. Especially on the heels of my miscarriage. Her concerns were that I was too old etc. What is exactly your mom concerned about? She likes J right? My mom is the same way I dont know why I give her so much power. Aunt Karma is on your side babe!
Btw.... I love the band aid boy but couldn't see the piano scene.
congrats on breaking the big news! it sounds like it was a little stressful but i think the anticipation of it is far worse. it's uphill from here... hope you guys have a nice weekend!
I am glad you told your mom, I sure hope things work out better for you with that.
The picture from the piano?? It rocks! I didn't have to blow it up at all to tell what it looked like. I suppose as a midwife I probably have more one on one crotch knowledge than most.
OMG- how could they not see the sea turtle in the piano!?! Actually, I am torn. It is either that or a frog. As if you are looking at their backs from above.
There is a boy face on our bedroom ceiling just to the left of the ceiling fan. I have never mentioned it to T but I know it's there. So glad to know there are others out there like me.
Glad you told your mom. When T and I told my parents about our first, we told them the night before we left for vacation. Gave them a whole week to think about it.
Hey K you know how Mom's are, very happy to hear you told her. Is that a phyco inkblot thing? You know I always fail them! Is that 2 animals drinking from a puddle? :^)
The Piano. It's all in what you see.....I can't TELL you what I see on the piano. I guess it's all how our minds work.
Mine is very dirty. Well....I wouldn't say dirty, but it CERTAINLY isn't clean :)
Cindi. I didn't tell her. I should :) put her mind at ease.
Mimi. me and my mom are VERY close. we talk every day. sometimes even more than once a day. she loves J. she is still with my dad. she just struggles with my choices that's all.
Who can blame her...right ? :)
Nailgirl. My mom just keeps telling me that she's concerned about my body, the babies, my kids through this pregnancy, after the pregnancy, Syd sharing her mom with 2 more babies.
I'm not sure she has as much faith in me as a mother. This is obviously her way of telling me that she doesn't think I can handle it.
You're losing it. LOL. That piano is filthy!
I wouldn't let your mom bring you down. It's not her life and it's really none of her business if you go and have 30 children. Or even 40. Because in the end it's YOUR life. Don't let her ruin a happy time for you. Yes, it'll be a lot of work but it will also be a lot of joy. You have a lovely family and I don't see how adding 2 more to the mix will do anything but make your family even better. :)
I want to know what you see on that piano. I see a babies face on one side, and a bulldog on the other side. As for your mom..... She and my mom could be twins. She said those very same things to me. My mom was worried about all of the things that you mentioned almost word for word. Eye yeye.
Hollie see what you see. Dirty mind - so much like!!!
I see - frog or turtle because i'm clean - hee hee
You're SO not losing it. Check out my flickr pics. I've got a face on my dresser. Or a dolphin if you ask M.
Your mom will come around. How can a grandma not be happy bout more grandkids. I think its GREAT!
I hope she comes around soon. You need all the support you can get! and I love the band aid face. Too funny.
The piano thing is hysterical and i didn't need to blow it up either. And I'm cracking up just reading the comments too. Maybe the women who can't see it are the straight girls?? LOL!!!
There is an abstract painting at work that has a very vaginal looking shape right in the center and I used to snicker everytime I'd walk by it wondering if I was the only one that noticed it. Later after Dawn and I had been together for awhile I thought to ask her about it (we work for the same company) and she knew exactly the painting that I was talking about! Great (dirty) minds think alike?
Congrats on finally telling your mom. While her reaction wasn't ideal, at least it is over and done with. She'll warm up to the idea of two more little ones before you know it.
Straight here, and I see it! Reminds me of that one episode of "Everybody.Loves.Raymond" when Marie made that sculpture that everyone saw something in but her. Made me laugh!
I have popped over from other blogs and read your blog before, but I must not have gone back far enough to see that you are expecting again. And twins at THAT! CONGRATS!!!!!!!!!!
From my standpoint (the one of having just bought a house WITH my mom, who recently moved from out of state), your conversation with yours went very well. If we get the elusive BFP on this, our last, month, I don't expect our conversation to go that well. At least it's over!!!
Band Aid Boy rocks! I see faces everywhere in my house.
I hope your mom is doing well with the news and that YOU are doing well with her response. When our (negative) expectations are met, it always feels worse than we expect it will, even though we brace ourselves for it. Hold strong, Baby. You know this is a gift.
OMG!!! Faces are EVERYWHERE in my house, and for the first time, MARE saw it too! So I am not nuts and neither are you....well, maybe a little!! As for your Mom....well she just needs to get a grip, and if she doesn't....HER LOSS! You are blessed my dear and as long as you know it, the hell with everyone else!!!
At least it's done! Thank goodness. Now it's on her plate to deal with.
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