I came out today. TWICE !
I had Sydney's kindergarten screening.
The teacher recognized Sydney to be both competent and brilliant. ahem, ahem.
And then we sat together and she went over goals for this year and I said, "I wanted to talk to you about our family. Sydney has a unique family, she has a mama and a Mommy J." I had already filled out all of the necessary paper work, crossing out the word dad and changing it to mom.
I looked at this sweet, kindergarten teacher and religious, grandmother and her face only changed slightly. She smiled and said, "thank you for telling me"
(inside I breathed a sigh of relief...I DID it. It's over)
I took the opportunity to not count her a fool and added, "I'm sure you've taught other families like ours, but I thought it important to mention. you know, in case something comes up on the playground."
She smiled again and said, "Is her other family involved ?"
I wondered if she assumed that I must have been married to make Sydney and then hopped the fence. (not unheard of, and she did seem a little sheltered)
"What do you mean ? Is Mommy J's family involved ? Who's family ?"
She sweetly asks, "Who's mommy J ?"
I then realized she had no idea what I had said to her only moments ago....she thought Sydney had step parents. I clarified, "My partner. Sydney has 2 mommies."
Her eyes only lifted and her same nervous smile returned and she replied simply with, "oh yes. Thank you for telling me"
I went on to tell her that Sydney is fine with having 2 moms and that there was a great book, Molly's Family by Nancy Garden, about a kindergartner who has 2 moms and how the teacher deals with the issues that comes up about 2 moms one day before family day.
She jotted down the title and that was that. Well there was a little more, but that was it.
I came out. not once, but twice.
Practice for the MANY years to come with the kids in school.
Each year a new teacher and a new nervous smile. Maybe we'll get lucky. Maybe they will get open minded teachers. Maybe one day it won't matter.
HEY. we're all setting goals. we can hope. right ?
Here we are at kindergarten orientation Tuesday. I have high high hopes this year. I can't believe my baby is in kindergarten. 5 days and she will put on her backpack and walk a block away to learn and make new friends.