My wife left me for the weekend. Taking along with her my eldest. Who I found out is also my eyes and ears. I can't wait to have my little helper back home. (
they get home at around 9 pm tonight)
I have been watching my weight. I'm a weight watcher. you know. a Weight Watcher.
oh whatever. Any ways, it's been a first hard week. As they always are. EACH and EVERY time I have them. ugh !
So I put it in my head that I was going to get a special treat night. That no matter how many points, I was eating something yummy. J and Syd were in Seattle living the high life of take-out food and dessert. (
well this is what I told myself) so I too would fall off the wagon.
Saturday night a very
OLD friend of mine :-) was going to come over to watch the Jazz game and have some beer. PERFECT. I saved all of my points that day so that I could drink WAY too much bud light wheat (
which is the BEST store bought beer ever. especially with fresh squeezed orange juice in it)
The kids were asleep and she came over. The Jazz lost and I had a total of 2 beers and stayed up visiting WAY too late.
WHAT ? how responsible of me. what about tearing in to that 12 pack and waking up with a headache.
Sunday the plan was to go to my moms for dinner. PERFECT. She'll SURELY have treats. She's a grandma for hell sakes.
note. she too is Weight Watching.
SO. no treats. I wasn't going to end it this way.
I got home and had the boys asleep by 8:14 pm.
I found a box of brownie mix and began preparing it. I got another bottle of bud light wheat and used the remaining slice of orange from the night before to add a bit of zest.
I sat at the computer and caught up. When the brownies were done I cut a
large square and covered it with 2 scoops of cookies and cream ice-cream. I grabbed my latest netflix movie and my beer and headed for the basement.
I couldn't for the life of me seem to get an uneven bite. Each one was equally covered in melted ice-cream and hot chocolately goodness.
The movie is another subtitled one. It seemed ok, but Ryan started crying and at this point it was 11 pm so I decided to wait for the wife to finish it.
I went upstairs. I took the pan of brownies. closed my eyes. held my breath. placed it in the sink and turned the faucet on.
I just don't have the will power. I knew that the boys would have nothing to do with them this morning. Although thoughts of feeding them brownies for breakfast repeatedly crossed my mind. In the end I knew that I would have eaten at least 2 more and considered the day a total loss, so why not blow it completely and eat the rest of the brownies for dinner.
Either way....such a good night. SUCH a good treat. and Me time.
Another big change for me is this. I'm always sure that behind every closed door there is an escaped convict waiting to jump on me. Waiting to attack. behind every corner. in the basement. upstairs. in the kids rooms, under their beds.
I only do this when J's away. You know, because THEY know that I'm all alone and although freakishly strong, still very vulnerable.
I hear things. See things that aren't there. Jump at every shadow.
Last night I slowly opened the bathroom door in my bedroom. It's pitch black because my room is also the babies room and they were sleeping soundly. Normally I wait. I think, they'll expect me to just walk in so that they can hit me over the head with an ax handle or hammer. Well I'll wait and then they'll swing and miss and I'll have time to grab both babies and both boys and make it to the cops house next door. mmm hmm. yip. that's the logic that goes through my head.
Last night however....I just walked in. I said, well...if it's my time to go...let it be quick. I closed the door and to my surprise...there was no one behind the door or in the shower or crouching down on the toilet.
When I turned the light off and opened the door once again to an even darker pitch black room,
because now my eyes have adjusted to the light, I was again certain there was an ax weilding murderer standing with arms up waiting for me to come out. I just walked forward and found my way to the bed. Walked right through the scary that wasn't there.
I laid down next to Ryan, who immediately rolled over flipping his right arm and leg over my body. I snuggled in to his belly and smelled and kissed him...and fell asleep. No fear of an intruder. No listening for sounds. Just sweet, immediate sleep.
It ended up to be the PERFECT night.
Even if I did get up at 3:15 am because Cam couldn't find his binky and Spencer peed out.
It was nice. It was my calgon moment. My exhale.
And I did it, by myself.